“I knew when I was pregnant that I would formula feed my baby”
Yes. That was me. Not a normal sentence you would expect to hear from a Mum or Mum-to-be, but I knew pretty early on in my pregnancy that I wouldn’t be breastfeeding or expressing. I would formula feed my baby.
I wanted my body back, pure and simple. My mental well-being definitely would not have survived and I knew that.
I am a person that needs 8 solid good hours of sleep, or I just can’t cope. Sleep deprivation hit me hard and if it wasn’t for the support I had through bottle feeding, I honestly would have crumbled. It did allow me to let someone else take over a night feed and let me recover to be the best mum I could be.
Plus, if any of you know me, you will know that I can get touched out pretty easily and I’m not one for hugs!
I’ve been met with obstacles along the way, don’t get me wrong. Being judged for getting baby’s bottle out of my bag, or not even ‘trying’ to breastfeed when Little One was born. I remember being pregnant and another mum started talking to me about how I was going to breastfeed, straight to boob or express and I was met with a look of horror when I said I was going to formula feed.
And don’t get me started on the washing up. How many bottles can 1 baby get through in a day!
I enjoyed that my hubby was the first person to give my Little One her milk in the delivery suite. I felt like I already knew her having her growing in my tummy for the last 9 months, it was time to meet everyone else.
I’ve spoken to my husband at length about feeding out baby both before and after she was born. He supported my decision and knew I would make the right chose for us all. But he has since told me that he enjoyed bottle feeding our Little One as he got bonding and cuddle time with her as well. I think he would have felt a little jealous has I breastfed in the end.
I’m not dismissing breastfeeding and promoting bottle feeding, I am just giving you my experience of feeding. If you choose to breastfeed then that is an excellent choice for you.
During labour we were asked how we would be feeding Little One when she arrived, we said “Bottle” and the midwife was so lovely, she didn’t judge, she simply left the room when I has delivered Little One and went to fetch her a fresh bottle. Our Health Visitors were lovely too. Don’t be worried about telling your Health Care Professional that you will be bottle feeding, they also want what is best for you.
Don’t feel that you’ve let your baby down by choosing the way you have chosen to feed them. You have made your best decision for you and them.
I knew whatever anyone else thought I was doing my best for my baby.
However, we choose to feed our babies, should be ok with everyone else. Let’s normalise feeding.
Always remember “Fed is Best”.